I am afraid that this post might come across as a little
cheesy. Just in case you think I am
being too dramatic, let me first give you a bit of preparation.
I have never met a woman who does not have some degree of disordered eating. (Most men have disordered eating tendencies as well.) I think this is largely the result of false beliefs presented to us through the media.
At least three times a day, we encounter a choice; we choose
to have either a good relationship
with food or a bad relationship with food.
If you have a bad relationship with food, and these issues
are left unaddressed, it could result in depression, anxiety, body image
issues, or a life-threatening eating disorder.
Don’t think that just because you are not in high school,
you are not at risk anymore. People of
all ages can develop an eating disorder or disordered eating (yes, there is a
difference).
So considering this information, take a look at your own
life and your own relationship with food.
Quiz: (But first, a disclaimer! I made up this quiz. This is not a professional or psychological quiz in any way, shape, or form. It is just the result of my personally observations of others around me and my experience with an eating disorder. I know these questions have very black and white answers listed. Life is not always this or that, all or nothing, or black and white. Just choose the answer which closely resembles how you feel.)
OK, now close your eyes, be honest with yourself, and think
for a few moments after reading each of these questions. Write down the number of the answer: 1), 2),
3), or 4) depending on what is next to your response. Don’t pick the one that you think you “should”;
answer how it really is.
Lettuce begin… J
How do you feel when you are about to eat a meal?
1)
I’ve never paid attention to how I feel before a
meal.
2)
Relaxed and looking forward to the dinner
conversation
3)
Starving! I am glad it’s time to eat because I
didn’t eat breakfast/lunch!
4)
Anxious about what to eat and how it will make
me feel
How do you feel after taking a second helping of dessert?
1)
I loved how it tasted…it was so good I had to
have another.
2)
Satisfied and moving on with the day
3)
Guilty. I
probably shouldn’t have eating that much dessert.
4)
I am planning to work out or make up for the extra
calories in some way.
What do you feel like when you are at a restaurant?
1)
I scan the menu for something that looks good to
me at that time.
2)
I always get ______, because it’s my favorite
thing to get at restaurants.
3)
I scan the menu for a calorie listing, a diet
food, low-calorie or low-fat options, or something I think I “should” eat.
4)
I eat before I go to a restaurant so I don’t
have to order anything.
1)
Don’t know
2)
No
3)
Yes
4)
All the time
How do you feel when you see a model on a commercial?
1)
It is just a commercial, I don’t think too much
about it.
2)
It doesn’t bother me.
3)
I feel a little jealous.
4)
I feel like I should try to look like what I
see.
1)
I think it’s hilarious to see the ridiculous
headlines when I am standing in the check-out line.
2)
I don’t look at them because they are full of
airbrushed people and false articles.
3)
They are my source and standard for news,
health, and relationships.
4)
I can’t help but look at them; however, I always
feel inadequate and feel like I have to change myself afterward.
How do you feel when you are around someone thinner or
prettier than you?
1)
I don’t notice.
2)
I acknowledge the other person’s characteristics
and marvel at human diversity.
3)
I constantly compare my looks and my weight to
other people and I wish I was different than I am.
4)
I vow to exercise more, eat less, and do other
things to “work on” my appearance.
What emotion do you feel when you look in the mirror?
1)
I make sure I don’t have toothpaste on my face
or crusty eyes and then I’m out the door.
2)
Contentment
3)
Shame or Disgust
4)
Nit picking and analyzing everything I see
How many times do you look in the mirror a day?
1)
Maybe once or twice
2)
Pretty often…at least every time I use the
restroom
3)
A lot…probably more than 20 times a day
4)
Constantly…I can’t stop analyzing my flaws
What if someone said to you right now, “You are so beautiful
(or handsome)”?
1)
I respond with a “thank you”.
2)
That was nice of them to say.
3)
They are just saying that to be nice.
4)
I come up with a hundred excuses about why I
don’t deserve that compliment.
What if someone told you that you don’t need to lose weight?
1)
I would say, “That’s for dang sure! What the
heck are you talking about?”
2)
I wouldn’t say anything, expect maybe “OK…”
3)
I would say, “No. I do. I could lose some weight
here or here. I need to tone this or
that.”
4)
“Are you crazy?
Have you seen my thighs? I am
trying to lose, at least, ___lbs.”
What if someone said you were the “right” size?
1)
“What am I, a fast food drink?”
2)
I believe that I am worthy and deserving of all
things good at ANY size.
3)
“No, I’m not the right size. I never find clothes in my size.”
4)
I am trying to drop a few sizes so I can fit
into a size ____.
End of Quiz
Total your score and read below for your results.
12-18: You have a positive body image for the most
part. Keep doing what you are
doing. Share with others how you came to
this conclusion! Your example will help
countless people overcome the pain of disordered eating.
19-26: You are on the right track to having a good
body image, but struggle from time to time, whether you realize it or not. You might be recovering from having a
negative body image or disordered eating tendencies, and you are on the road to
health. If you did not realize that you
have a negative body image, become aware of how you treat yourself. Root out all disordered eating tendencies
before they become habits. This is
especially important for mothers or teachers.
Young children can learn eating disorder behaviors from the adults they
admire. It is good to be aware of how
you treat yourself.
27-36: You really struggle to have a positive body
image and you have disordered eating tendencies. Be honest with yourself and stay away from
things that contribute to a negative body image. You don’t have to live with a negative body
image. You deserve to be happy, respected,
and encouraged in your own skin. Life is
too short to spend it worried about your weight.
37-48: You have severe disordered eating practices
and, possibly, a diagnosable eating disorder or body dysmorphic disorder. (This test is not intended to determine
whether or not you have an eating disorder.
You can find psychiatric tests about eating disorders here or here or here. If you feel like you
might have an eating disorder, I encourage you to seek professional help. You deserve it! You are worth it! Don’t settle for life with an eating
disorder.)
I won’t be offended if you laugh at my quiz or not take it
seriously. I am not a professional and I
didn’t spend uber amounts of time
testing this quiz. If I took this quiz
last year, I would have scored a 48 – the highest score possible. And at that point, I had severe body image
issues and dangerous eating disorder behaviors.
Taking this quiz now, I scored a 40.
I still have a long way to go, but I am way better off than I was
before.
Consider how you answered all those questions above…
What you believe about
yourself determines how you treat yourself, especially when it comes to
nourishment.
My guess is that most people scored higher than 12. If you honestly scored 12, then you are doing
great in the positive body image/food relationship department. Tell me your story. How did you do it?
If you would like to share your answers with me, that would
be awesome. Anonymously put your number
in the comments section or send me a private message on Facebook or email me at
maryb4jc (at) yahoo (dot) com. I will NOT publish your answers or draw
attention to you in ANY way. This test is
just purely an experiment on my part because I am curious. If you don’t want to share your results, that
is totally OK too, I won’t be offended.
I know not everyone thinks the way I do. I know not everyone struggles with an eating
disorder. However, I can’t help but think
that a lot of people struggle to keep a positive body image.
Just
because most people struggle to keep a positive body image and have a bad
relationship with food, doesn’t make it right.
Keeping a positive body image and having good eating
behaviors will dramatically improve your quality of life.
Just because everyone else is doing it, doesn’t mean you
have to settle for “under-nourished” life.
It is possible to have a good relationship with food. It is possible to live without the fear of
food. It is possible to never be on a
diet again. You deserve it!
I scored a 33. Thanks for getting me to reflect on this!
ReplyDeleteThank you for reading. You are AWESOME, Rach! Thank you for your feedback. I really appreciate it!
DeleteI think I have a disorder. Ugh.
ReplyDeleteThe great thing about disordered eating is that it is TOTALLY treatable! Awareness is the first step:)
DeleteIf you think you have more of an eating disorder check out the NIMI website to review more offical tests. They also have great resources for those looking for help. The link is below:
http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/eating-disorders/index.shtml